Don’t Let Fear Limit Your Dreams

Don’t Let Fear Limit Your Dreams

This past Labor Day weekend I attended GirlTrek’s annual #StressProtest in Estes Park, CO. GirlTrek is a national health movement that motivates thousands of Black women to be change makers in their lives and communities through walking (www.girltrek.org). Since joining Girltrek in 2017 I have been inspired to not only participate in area walks but to also organize walks as well. We encourage women to walk at least 30 minutes per day which can be done as a group or as a solo trekker. The Stress Protest is a way to unplug getaway and fellowship with other like-minded sisters and also challenge yourself to get outside of your comfort zone and learn and do something different. I was initially apprehensive and remained on the fence for a while because I have a fear of snakes. It wasn’t until I spoke with one of my colleagues about possibly going and I revealed to her my fear of snakes. She immediately said that the ground would likely be too cold for snakes so I “probably” wouldn’t see any.

Probably?! Not sure that was good enough, I thought. But when she went on to explain how beautiful the mountains are that time of the year and the deer, elk and moose that live there were a sight to see, I decided to give it a try.

For those who know me, they know that one of my mortal fears is the fear of snakes. The entire time I was preparing for this trip, in the forefront of my mind was;

“What if I see a snake? How to react? Will I fall off the mountain if I go hiking and see a snake? Should I go hiking?”

When I think of my bucket list, hiking in the mountains was NEVER included as something I ever wanted to do because of my fear of snakes. I’m more of a beach baby, therefore my bucket list generally includes things like visit the beaches of Hawaii, Figi, Turks and Caicos, Jamaica, etc. but never to hike in the wilderness where snakes live. (ugh…)

Once my trip was book we received a schedule of offerings which we were free to do as much or as little as we wanted to. There was Trap Yoga, meditation, prayer, double dutch, self-defense, African dance classes and so much more to choose from but most of all there were multiple opportunities with various levels of difficulty to hike in the Rocky Mountains. This turned out to be one of the most amazing weekends of self-care and conquering of fears. Initially I said to myself that you can’t go all the way to Colorado and not see the beauty of nature. So I initially planned to just do a beginner walk which was a flat walk around a lake.

What did I have to prove?

I said to myself, I’m here in the mountains with an elevation of 8010 feet already at our lodge so why should I do anything more? I had been praying for guidance and strength to conquer my fears and quite frankly I was scared to death to even do the beginner walk.

After much thought and prayer I decided to raise the bar a bit and tackle the intermediate hike which was described as “3.5 miles round trip with steady incline and striking views of three glacial lakes.” WOW! Who could resist a hike such as this? The steady incline was a bit scary but I have been preparing for this all year and I was confident that I could do it. The day of my hike was chaotic, the group that took the intermediate hike the day before were really challenged and some couldn’t complete it. This caused my hike leader to challenge if I would be able to make it on this particular hike. At first I was upset that she picked me to confront and due to the negative vibe I felt, I chose not to go with the group. I was actually crying because of all the emotions and anxiety I had about doing the hike but yet was willing to press on and conquer. While I was standing there filled with anger and regret for letting someone get to me like that, another hike leader asked me if I wanted to do an intermediate hike later that day to Bible Point. She explained that there were no lakes up there but striking views and bible scriptures along the route and at the top there was a mailbox where you could write your prayer requests. Look at how God works. I immediately said yes and although still scared I might see a snake, I was looking forward to this hike.

     

As we began our walk for what seemed like forever but was only the first half hour, I was out of breath and when I asked our hike leader how much farther she said we hadn’t started to climb yet and this was only the beginning. I felt bad that I was having such difficulty breathing at that altitude and decided to quit. I knew the way back and I didn’t want to hinder the others in my group from making it to the top. The amazing ladies in my group all told me NO, do not quit, they had my back. The encouraged me and lifted me up that I could not quit no matter how hard it was. They said we would take frequent breaks to drink our water and eat our snacks and no matter what we would do this together. We climbed up almost another 1000 feet to an elevation near 9000 feet. There were some steep drop offs and very rocky paths we had to travel. The views were amazing and best of all no snakes. It turns out the snakes can’t take the elevation so there are none up that high. Thank you Jesus, I said and I know He knew I would have fallen off that mountain if I saw a baby snake. LOL!

My biggest take a ways were:

  1. Don’t let your fears keep you from experiencing this beautiful earth God created.
  2. Don’t quit even when it’s difficult as I’m stronger than I think.

And in the end “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.

I hope this inspires someone to not only challenge yourself physically but mentally as well. I will definitely return to the Rocky Mountains again and again and hopefully my family will join me as well.

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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Wellness Wednesday – Mid-Year Check-in with Yourself (RESET)

Wellness Wednesday – Mid-Year Check-in with Yourself (RESET)

Each year in December we often set goals or New Year’s Resolutions and in the following December we look back and realize we haven’t achieved what we wanted and set new goals or the same ones over again. This creates that “vicious cycle” of creating and NOT achieving our goals.

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This year I decided to do things a bit differently. So instead of waiting until December to see if I missed the mark, I’m doing a mid-year check-in on my goals. This way I can see where I am making progress and what areas of my life still need work.

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What prompted me to check-in with myself was my annual check-up with my doctor which showed I had gained 8 pounds since last year.

“WHAT!!! How could this be I said to myself?”

Well of course I know exactly how this could be, I haven’t been working out at the gym as much as I did last year and I have begun to fall into bad eating habits so of course I gained 8 pounds.

On June 2nd I completed a 5K race which many would say, “Well done” but I was not prepared and it showed. It took me 57 minutes to complete a race that I ran (walk/ran) in 46 minutes last September. I felt as though I was going to pass out when I ran across the finish line. Thankfully my husband was there to catch me. Once I caught my breath and came to my senses I made a plan to get back on track.

Here is what I am doing to RESET and crush my fitness goal for this year.

  1. Pack a healthy breakfast and lunch each day as well as healthy snacks. No fast food!
  2. Drink at least one protein shake per day to ensure I am getting my 80+ grams of protein in daily.
  3. No eating after 7pm
  4. Drink more water.
  5. Hit the gym or other walk/run, swim, Zumba activity at least 5 days per week and restart the Couch to 5K (C25K) training.
  6. Weigh myself once a week to ensure I am staying on track.

For most of us our goals don’t stop with physical fitness but encompass other important areas of our lives as well.

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Financial fitness is another area I have been working on. As I begin to plan for retirement sometime in the next ten years I am mindful that I waste a lot of money on God knows what. So my plan for this year and going forward is to understand better where every single cent is going and to eliminate waste.

Here is the current plan:

  1. Pay off credit cards starting with those with the highest interest rate.
  2. Decrease dependence on credit and use cash when possible and credit cards for emergencies ONLY!
  3. Increase my 401K contributions.

Another goal that I have for this year is to continue to make self-care a priority. You may ask what does that look like? Well for me my self-care looks like this:

  • Quiet time in the morning, at least 30 minutes to pray and meditate. This is generally at 4:30am when everyone else is asleep.
    • During this time there is no technology!
    • This could also include a peaceful walk
  • Massage at least once a month
  • Exercise at least 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week or more if possible
  • I do not listen to music that promotes violence, disrespects women or tears people down “Garbage in; Garbage out”
  • I eat a healthy breakfast
  • No Toxic people in my life (period)
  • Bedtime by 9:00pm weeknights and 10pm on weekends

I’m still striving to find time for the following:

  • Journaling
  • Reading
  • Crocheting

I would strongly recommend that you not only reset, but reevaluate the goals you have set to determine if they are still relevant and realistic. Your goals may no longer be relevant for various reasons and they also may not be realistic. We oftentimes don’t set SMART goals and we need to break them down into smaller achievable goals.

Finally, let’s celebrate the small victories we have made thus far this year. Treat yourself to something small to reward the work you have done and the work you will continue to do to finish this year out strong!

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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New Year, New Beginnings

New Year, New Beginnings

The new year is a is a season of new beginnings. Many people find themselves wanting to make significant life changes, but do not know where to begin. Don’t worry, I’ve been there too! I want to share with you something that helped me on my spiritually-guided wellness and career journey. One thing that really resonated with me when I joined my church, Enon Tabernacle Baptist Church, was when we were encouraged to take a Spiritual Gifts Test. This test is about 100 questions to determine your top three gifts and the best ways to use them. This was helpful in choosing where to serve in ministry but also in my career as well. You can find the test here: https://spiritualgiftstest.com/spiritual-gifts/
Starting from a place of self-reflection can guide your steps towards a balanced life!

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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Don’t Stress! I’ve Got You Covered!

Don’t Stress! I’ve Got You Covered!

The holiday season can be a stressful time for folks. I personally have suffered the loss of four significant people in my life. It has been a challenge to balance work and family life while finding time and space to mourn the loss of my loved ones. If you too are going through the same thing, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Be gladdened by the fact that this too shall pass and the Lord will keep us comforted through the storm.

As my holiday gift to you, I compiled all 6 weeks of my stress management series into a PDF for you to peruse during the holiday break. I encourage you to take some time for yourself and learn a few techniques to keep stress at bay. Click here to download the PDF

Happy Holidays!

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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Managing Stress: Week 6

Managing Stress: Week 6

Putting it all together!

Over the last month and a half, we have been discussing a plethora of ways you can be proactive about combatting stress. I hope that you found a few things that resonated with you and that you can implement into you’re your life. That’s the key really…finding something that works for YOU! How do you know what works for you? Below I have some quizzes available from the American Institute of Stress. They may help you figure out which areas are unbalanced and causing the most stress in your life.

 

After taking the quizzes, go back over the week’s lessons and assignments and see which activity works best for managing stress in your life.

Until Next Time, Be Well!

Please note that the information in this blog is not intended to replace medical treatment or advice. Consult your physician before you make any major dietary changes.

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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Finding Power and Purpose takes the reader on a dynamic journey from darkness, depression, and life-threatening health, to one of healing, self-love and alignment with God’s will.

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Victory!

Victory!

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GirlTrek’s National PrayerTrek is an annual walking competition for Black churches to step out on faith and encourage their congregations to begin a daily walking routine.  From October 1-­9, thousands of prayer warriors hit the streets all across America to walk, worship and bear witness to their communities. The walking theme is the Nine Fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience (long-suffering), kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

This was my first year participating in PrayerTrek and for me, it strengthened my resolve and commitment to living a “well” life. Google says that the word “well” means “in a good or satisfactory way”. When I think of being well in mind, body, and spirit it means that I will:

  • Take time for myself
  • Walk at least 30-minutes per day for my health and strength
  • Pray for my family and community
  • Meditate on what the Lord would have for me to do in service to others.

Living intentionally is not an easy task but one that requires determination and dedication. Many mornings I honestly don’t feel like getting up and often find many excuses for not moving. Yet, with discipline and commitment, I refuse to let that mindset distract me from my goal…so I drag my butt out of bed anyway! Once I get up and get moving, there’s no stopping me. After a few stretches and deep breathing exercises I am ready for the world!

PrayerTrek was mostly a solo trek for me except on day seven when I participated in the Human Trafficking Awareness 5K with my church and GirlTrek sisters. Solo Trekking has been very therapeutic and a way to ensure I fit it all in by walking and praying at the same time. When I return home from my walk/run, I take a few minutes to meditate and hear from the Lord.

This past year I have made great strides in living well and eating well but there is always room for improvement. Upon completion of my PrayerTrek I am more committed than ever to doing better in every aspect of my life. I am committed to inspiring and motivating others to live well and to help them achieve balance.

About Rochelle

Rochelle Redding, M.S. is a wife, mother of four, and the owner and operator of Rochelle Redding Coaching and Consulting Services (RRCCS). RRCCS is a spiritually-based coaching service dedicated to helping women be their best selves and achieve wellness in all aspects of their life. Learn about life coaching services with Rochelle by clicking here.

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Finding Power and Purpose takes the reader on a dynamic journey from darkness, depression, and life-threatening health, to one of healing, self-love and alignment with God’s will.

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